Business Networking - Is Rude Networking a New Trend in the Recession?

It has been stated a number of times that a outstanding way to grow your enterprise is by means of networking.

But it seems to me that "rude networking" is on the improve!

(By the way this is not the same thing as sexy networking and has nothing to do with clothing or the lack of it...)

It's about how rude people are in their conversation. To give you just one example....

I was at a networking event the other day and was approached by an individual, let's call him Doug to save his embarrassment, despite the fact that come to think about it he'll in all probability be oblivious! He absolutely was when he spoke to me.

He gave me a bone crusher of a handshake, shoved his company card at me and then proceeded to bombard me with data for pretty much 10 mins. I didn't get the opportunity to get a word in edgeways. I essentially broke rapport with him many times just to see what would occur but he nonetheless carried on with the monologue. He was talking at me rather than to me. When he did eventually stop and ask me what I did, I managed to get a sentence out but it was certainly not what he was looking for mainly because he really started to "work the room" i.e. was searching for other people to speak to, so I stopped talking, thanked him and went to get a drink of water.

And throughout the evening I noticed him doing exactly the similar thing more than and more than once again. From watching other people's responses they felt the same way I did. And he didn't appear to be conscious of how lots of people he was switching off. I do not know how various enterprise cards he collected but I'm he did incredibly small in terms of constructing relationships. It is got absolutely nothing to do with the networking scenario - he was essentially just particularly rude.Would he do that when talking to pals? I doubt it, so why do it when meeting new many people?

And this seems to be a growing trend. I met with a fine friend of mine yesterday who is heavily involved in running quite a few networking groups and she's noticed specifically the very same factor happening.

You often hear that it is all about building relationships and not about selling...... so why do so quite a few persons select not to get it?

Is it due to the fact of the recession - that now more folks realise that they "need" to network and so go out and do it but don't certainly know how? or there is now such a sense of urgency that they have to get new business that they attempt to rush the entire method? (and really scupper their chances in the approach).

It's been stated ahead of but effective organization networking takes time. It can't be rushed. It's about pulling many people towards you rather than pushing yourself at them so that you build longterm helping relationships.

I believe it's actually valuable to feel of it as just generating new buddies that possibly about for a lengthy time.

So what would I say to Doug if I had the chance?

next time you go networking aim to have fun and make new pals.

Aim for top quality not quantity and do not pitch to people.

Ask great questions rather.

Show you are genuinely interested in the other person.

Appear for techniques to aid them as you would if they were your fine friends.

... and in that way you will begin to attract organization opportunities rather than repel possible contacts.

And if you got the opportunity what would you say to Doug?